This is from my best friend's blog:
The choice of Rick Warren to offer the invocation at the presidential inauguration certainly was a political one. I'm not even all that surprised that Barack Obama chose him as a way to offer a "big tent" philosophy.
However if I was advising him I would have advised him to choose an "in the trenches" pastor, someone who knows the daily struggles of members of her congregation, someone who attends monthly trustee meetings, someone who sits with his parishoners and holds their hand while they are dying. Why choose a celebrity pastor? I have nothing against Rick Warren personally - I certainly don't agree with him on lots of issues - and I'm sure he will say wonderful things. I just wish the choice was less flashy and more sensitive to those who faithfully offer outstanding pastoral leadership day in and day out without drawing attention to themselves.
Thursday, December 18, 2008
Wednesday, December 17, 2008
OUR MUTUAL JOY
Our Mutual Joy
Opponents of gay marriage often cite Scripture. But what the Bible teaches about love argues for the other side.
Lisa Miller
NEWSWEEK
From the magazine issue dated Dec 15, 2008
Let's try for a minute to take the religious conservatives at their word and define marriage as the Bible does. Shall we look to Abraham, the great patriarch, who slept with his servant when he discovered his beloved wife Sarah was infertile? Or to Jacob, who fathered children with four different women (two sisters and their servants)? Abraham, Jacob,David, Solomon and the kings of Judah and Israel—all these fathers and heroes were polygamists. The New Testament model of marriage is hardly better. Jesus himself was single and preached an indifference to earthly attachments—especially family. The apostle Paul (also single)regarded marriage as an act of last resort for those unable to contain their animal lust. "It is better to marry than to burn with passion,"says the apostle, in one of the most lukewarm endorsements of a treasured institution ever uttered. Would any contemporary heterosexual married couple—who likely woke up on their wedding day harboring some optimistic and newfangled ideas about gender equality and romantic love—turn to the Bible as a how-to script?
Of course not, yet the religious opponents of gay marriage would have it be so.
The battle over gay marriage has been waged for more than a decade, but within the last six months—since California legalized gay marriage and then, with a ballot initiative in November, amended its Constitution to prohibit it—the debate has grown into a full-scale war, with religious-rhetoric slinging to match. Not since 1860, when the country's pulpits were full of preachers pronouncing on slavery, pro and con, has one of our basic social (and economic) institutions been so subject to biblical scrutiny. But whereas in the Civil War the traditionalists had their James Henley Thornwell—and the advocates for change, their Henry Ward Beecher—this time the sides are unevenly matched. All the religious rhetoric, it seems, has been on the side of the gay-marriage opponents, who use Scripture as the foundation for their objections.
The argument goes something like this statement, which the Rev. Richard A. Hunter, a United Methodist minister, gave to the Atlanta Journal-Constitution in June: "The Bible and Jesus define marriage as between one man and one woman. The church cannot condone or bless same-sex marriages because this stands in opposition to Scripture and our tradition."
To which there are two obvious responses: First, while the Bible and Jesus say many important things about love and family, neither explicitly defines marriage as between one man and one woman. And second, as the examples above illustrate, no sensible modern person wants marriage—theirs or anyone else's —to look in its particulars anything like what the Bible describes. "Marriage" in America refers to two separate things, a religious institution and a civil one, though it is most often enacted as a messy conflation of the two. As a civil institution, marriage offers practical benefits to both partners: contractual rights having to do with taxes; insurance; the care and custody of children;visitation rights; and inheritance. As a religious institution,marriage offers something else: a commitment of both partners before God to love, honor and cherish each other—in sickness and in health, for richer and poorer—in accordance with God's will. In a religious marriage, two people promise to take care of each other, profoundly, the way they believe God cares for them. Biblical literalists will disagree, but the Bible is a living document, powerful for more than 2,000 years because its truths speak to us even as we change through history. In that light, Scripture gives us no good reason why gays and lesbians should not be (civilly and religiously) married—and a number of excellent reasons why they should.
In the Old Testament, the concept of family is fundamental, but examples of what social conservatives would call "the traditional family" are scarcely to be found. Marriage was critical to the passing along of tradition and history, as well as to maintaining the Jews' precious and fragile monotheism. But as the Barnard University Bible scholar Alan Segal puts it, the arrangement was between "one man and as many women as he could pay for." Social conservatives point to Adam and Eve as evidence for their one man, one woman argument—in particular, this verse from Genesis: "Therefore shall a man leave his mother and father, and shall cleave unto his wife, and they shall be one flesh." But as Segal says, if you believe that the Bible was written by men and not handed down in its leather bindings by God, then that verse was written by people for whom polygamy was the way of the world. (The fact that homosexual couples cannot procreate has also been raised as a biblical objection, for didn't God say, "Be fruitful and multiply"? But the Bible authors could never have imagined the brave new world of international adoption and assisted reproductive technology—and besides, heterosexuals who are infertile or past the age of reproducing get married all the time.)
Ozzie and Harriet are nowhere in the New Testament either. The biblical Jesus was—in spite of recent efforts of novelists to paint him otherwise—emphatically unmarried. He preached a radical kind of family, a caring community of believers, whose bond in God superseded all blood ties. Leave your families and follow me, Jesus says in the gospels. There will be no marriage in heaven, he says in Matthew. Jesus never mentions homosexuality, but he roundly condemns divorce (leaving a loophole in some cases for the husbands of unfaithful women).
The apostle Paul echoed the Christian Lord's lack of interest in matters of the flesh. For him, celibacy was the Christian ideal, but family stability was the best alternative. Marry if you must, he told his audiences, but do not get divorced. "To the married I give this command (not I, but the Lord): a wife must not separate from her husband." It probably goes without saying that the phrase "gay marriage" does not appear in the Bible at all.
If the Bible doesn't give abundant examples of traditional marriage, then what are the gay-marriage opponents really exercised about? Well, homosexuality, of course—specifically sex between men. Sex between women has never, even in biblical times, raised as much ire. In its entry on "Homosexual Practices," the Anchor Bible Dictionary notes that nowhere in the Bible do its authors refer to sex between women, "possibly because it did not result in true physical 'union' (by male entry)." The Bible does condemn gay male sex in a handful of passages. Twice Leviticus refers to sex between men as "an abomination" (King James version), but these are throwaway lines in a peculiar text given over to codes for living in the ancient Jewish world, a text that devotes verse after verse to treatments for leprosy, cleanliness rituals for menstruating women and the correct way to sacrifice a goat—or a lamb or a turtle dove. Most of us no longer heed Leviticus on haircuts or blood sacrifices; our modern understanding of the world has surpassed its prescriptions. Why would we regard its condemnation of homosexuality with more seriousness than we regard its advice, which is far lengthier, on the best price to pay for a slave?
Paul was tough on homosexuality, though recently progressive scholars have argued that his condemnation of men who "were inflamed with lust for one another" (which he calls "a perversion") is really a critique of the worst kind of wickedness: self-delusion, violence, promiscuity and debauchery. In his book "The Arrogance of Nations," the scholar Neil Elliott argues that Paul is referring in this famous passage to the depravity of the Roman emperors, the craven habits of Nero and Caligula, a reference his audience would have grasped instantly. "Paul is not talking about what we call homosexuality at all," Elliott says. "He's talking about a certain group of people who have done everything in this list. We're not dealing with anything like gay love or gay marriage. We're talking about really, really violent people who meet their end and are judged by God." In any case, one might add, Paul argued more strenuously against divorce—and at least half of the Christians in America disregard that teaching.
Religious objections to gay marriage are rooted not in the Bible at all, then, but in custom and tradition (and, to talk turkey for a minute, a personal discomfort with gay sex that transcends theological argument). Common prayers and rituals reflect our common practice: the Episcopal Book of Common Prayer describes the participants in a marriage as "the man and the woman." But common practice changes—and for the better, as the Rev. Martin Luther King Jr.said, "The arc of history is long, but it bends toward justice." The Bible endorses slavery, a practice that Americans now universally consider shameful and barbaric. It recommends the death penalty for adulterers (and in Leviticus, for men who have sex with men, for that matter). It provides conceptual shelter for anti-Semites. A mature view of scriptural authority requires us, as we have in the past, to move beyond literalism. The Bible was written for a world so unlike our own, it's impossible to apply its rules, at face value, to ours.
Marriage, specifically, has evolved so as to be unrecognizable to the wives of Abraham and Jacob. Monogamy became the norm in the Christian world in the sixth century; husbands' frequent enjoyment of mistresses and prostitutes became taboo by the beginning of the 20th. (In the NEWSWEEK POLL, 55 percent of respondents said that married heterosexuals who have sex with someone other than their spouses are more morally objectionable than a gay couple in a committed sexual relationship.) By the mid-19th century, U.S. courts were siding with wives who were the victims of domestic violence, and by the 1970s most states had gotten rid of their"head and master" laws, which gave husbands the right to decide where a family would live and whether a wife would be able to take a job. Today's vision of marriage as a union of equal partners, joined in a relationship both romantic and pragmatic, is, by very recent standards, radical, says Stephanie Coontz, author of "Marriage, a History."
Religious wedding ceremonies have already changed to reflect new conceptions of marriage. Remember when we used to say "man and wife" instead of"husband and wife"? Remember when we stopped using the word "obey"? Even Miss Manners, the voice of tradition and reason, approved in 1997 of that change. "It seems," she wrote, "that dropping 'obey' was a sensible editing of a service that made assumptions about marriage that the society no longer holds."
We cannot look to the Bible as a marriage manual, but we can read it for universal truths as we struggle toward a more just future. The Bible offers inspiration and warning on the subjects of love, marriage, family and community. It speaks eloquently of the crucial role of families in a fair society and the risks we incur to ourselves and our children should we cease trying to bind ourselves together in loving pairs. Gay men like to point to the story of passionate King David and his friend Jonathan, with whom he was "one spirit" and whom he "loved as he loved himself." Conservatives say this is a story about a platonic friendship, but it is also a story about two men who stand up for each other in turbulent times, through violent war and the disapproval of a powerful parent. David rends his clothes at Jonathan's death and, in grieving, writes a song:
I grieve for you, Jonathan my brother;
You were very dear to me.
Your love for me was wonderful,
More wonderful than that of women.
Here, the Bible praises enduring love between men. What Jonathan and David did or did not do in privacy is perhaps best left to history and our own imaginations.
In addition to its praise of friendship and its condemnation of divorce, the Bible gives many examples of marriages that defy convention yet benefit the greater community. The Torah discouraged the ancient Hebrews from marrying outside the tribe, yet Moses himself is married to a foreigner, Zipporah. Queen Esther is married to a non-Jew and, according to legend, saves the Jewish people. Rabbi Arthur Waskow, of the Shalom Center in Philadelphia, believes that Judaism thrives through diversity and inclusion. "I don't think Judaism should or ought to want to leave any portion of the human population outside the religious process," he says. "We should not want to leave [homosexuals] outside the sacred tent." The marriage of Joseph and Mary is also unorthodox (to say the least), a case of an unconventional arrangement accepted by society for the common good. The boy needed two human parents, after all.
In the Christian story,the message of acceptance for all is codified. Jesus reaches out to everyone, especially those on the margins, and brings the whole Christian community into his embrace. The Rev. James Martin, a Jesuit priest and author, cites the story of Jesus revealing himself to the woman at the well— no matter that she had five former husbands and a current boyfriend—as evidence of Christ's all-encompassing love. The great Bible scholar Walter Brueggemann, emeritus professor at Columbia Theological Seminary, quotes the apostle Paul when he looks for biblical support of gay marriage: "There is neither Greek nor Jew, slave nor free, male nor female, for you are all one in Jesus Christ. "The religious argument for gay marriage, he adds, "is not generally made with reference to particular texts, but with the general conviction that the Bible is bent toward inclusiveness."
The practice of inclusion, even in defiance of social convention, the reaching out to outcasts, the emphasis on togetherness and community over and against chaos, depravity, indifference—all these biblical values argue for gay marriage. If one is for racial equality and the common nature of humanity, then the values of stability, monogamy and family necessarily follow. Terry Davis is the pastor of First Presbyterian Church in Hartford, Conn., and has been presiding over"holy unions" since 1992. "I'm against promiscuity—love ought to be expressed in committed relationships, not through casual sex, and I think the church should recognize the validity of committed same-sex relationships," he says.
Still, very few Jewish or Christian denominations do officially endorse gay marriage, even in the states where it is legal. The practice varies by region, by church or synagogue, even by cleric. More progressive denominations—the United Church of Christ, for example—have agreed to support gay marriage. Other denominations and dioceses will do "holy union" or "blessing"ceremonies, but shy away from the word "marriage" because it is politically explosive. So the frustrating, semantic question remains: should gay people be married in the same, sacramental sense that straight people are? I would argue that they should. If we are all God's children, made in his likeness and image, then to deny access to any sacrament based on sexuality is exactly the same thing as denying it based on skin color—and no serious (or even semi serious) person would argue that. People get married "for their mutual joy," explains the Rev. Chloe Breyer, executive director of the Interfaith Center in New York, quoting the Episcopal marriage ceremony. That's what religious people do: care for each other in spite of difficulty, she adds. In marriage, couples grow closer to God: "Being with one another in community is how you love God. That's what marriage is about."
More basic than theology, though, is human need. We want, as Abraham did, to grow old surrounded by friends and family and to be buried at last peacefully among them. We want, as Jesus taught, to love one another for our own good—and, not to be too grandiose about it, for the good of the world. We want our children to grow up in stable homes. What happens in the bedroom, really, has nothing to do with any of this. My friend the priest James Martin says his favorite Scripture relating to the question of homosexuality is Psalm 139, a song that praises the beauty and imperfection in all of us and that glorifies God's knowledge of our most secret selves: "I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made." And then he adds that in his heart he believes that if Jesus were alive today, he would reach out especially to the gays and lesbians among us, for "Jesus does not want people to be lonely and sad." Let the priest's prayer be our own.
With Sarah Ball and Anne Underwood
URL: http://www.newsweek.com/id/172653
© 2008
Opponents of gay marriage often cite Scripture. But what the Bible teaches about love argues for the other side.
Lisa Miller
NEWSWEEK
From the magazine issue dated Dec 15, 2008
Let's try for a minute to take the religious conservatives at their word and define marriage as the Bible does. Shall we look to Abraham, the great patriarch, who slept with his servant when he discovered his beloved wife Sarah was infertile? Or to Jacob, who fathered children with four different women (two sisters and their servants)? Abraham, Jacob,David, Solomon and the kings of Judah and Israel—all these fathers and heroes were polygamists. The New Testament model of marriage is hardly better. Jesus himself was single and preached an indifference to earthly attachments—especially family. The apostle Paul (also single)regarded marriage as an act of last resort for those unable to contain their animal lust. "It is better to marry than to burn with passion,"says the apostle, in one of the most lukewarm endorsements of a treasured institution ever uttered. Would any contemporary heterosexual married couple—who likely woke up on their wedding day harboring some optimistic and newfangled ideas about gender equality and romantic love—turn to the Bible as a how-to script?
Of course not, yet the religious opponents of gay marriage would have it be so.
The battle over gay marriage has been waged for more than a decade, but within the last six months—since California legalized gay marriage and then, with a ballot initiative in November, amended its Constitution to prohibit it—the debate has grown into a full-scale war, with religious-rhetoric slinging to match. Not since 1860, when the country's pulpits were full of preachers pronouncing on slavery, pro and con, has one of our basic social (and economic) institutions been so subject to biblical scrutiny. But whereas in the Civil War the traditionalists had their James Henley Thornwell—and the advocates for change, their Henry Ward Beecher—this time the sides are unevenly matched. All the religious rhetoric, it seems, has been on the side of the gay-marriage opponents, who use Scripture as the foundation for their objections.
The argument goes something like this statement, which the Rev. Richard A. Hunter, a United Methodist minister, gave to the Atlanta Journal-Constitution in June: "The Bible and Jesus define marriage as between one man and one woman. The church cannot condone or bless same-sex marriages because this stands in opposition to Scripture and our tradition."
To which there are two obvious responses: First, while the Bible and Jesus say many important things about love and family, neither explicitly defines marriage as between one man and one woman. And second, as the examples above illustrate, no sensible modern person wants marriage—theirs or anyone else's —to look in its particulars anything like what the Bible describes. "Marriage" in America refers to two separate things, a religious institution and a civil one, though it is most often enacted as a messy conflation of the two. As a civil institution, marriage offers practical benefits to both partners: contractual rights having to do with taxes; insurance; the care and custody of children;visitation rights; and inheritance. As a religious institution,marriage offers something else: a commitment of both partners before God to love, honor and cherish each other—in sickness and in health, for richer and poorer—in accordance with God's will. In a religious marriage, two people promise to take care of each other, profoundly, the way they believe God cares for them. Biblical literalists will disagree, but the Bible is a living document, powerful for more than 2,000 years because its truths speak to us even as we change through history. In that light, Scripture gives us no good reason why gays and lesbians should not be (civilly and religiously) married—and a number of excellent reasons why they should.
In the Old Testament, the concept of family is fundamental, but examples of what social conservatives would call "the traditional family" are scarcely to be found. Marriage was critical to the passing along of tradition and history, as well as to maintaining the Jews' precious and fragile monotheism. But as the Barnard University Bible scholar Alan Segal puts it, the arrangement was between "one man and as many women as he could pay for." Social conservatives point to Adam and Eve as evidence for their one man, one woman argument—in particular, this verse from Genesis: "Therefore shall a man leave his mother and father, and shall cleave unto his wife, and they shall be one flesh." But as Segal says, if you believe that the Bible was written by men and not handed down in its leather bindings by God, then that verse was written by people for whom polygamy was the way of the world. (The fact that homosexual couples cannot procreate has also been raised as a biblical objection, for didn't God say, "Be fruitful and multiply"? But the Bible authors could never have imagined the brave new world of international adoption and assisted reproductive technology—and besides, heterosexuals who are infertile or past the age of reproducing get married all the time.)
Ozzie and Harriet are nowhere in the New Testament either. The biblical Jesus was—in spite of recent efforts of novelists to paint him otherwise—emphatically unmarried. He preached a radical kind of family, a caring community of believers, whose bond in God superseded all blood ties. Leave your families and follow me, Jesus says in the gospels. There will be no marriage in heaven, he says in Matthew. Jesus never mentions homosexuality, but he roundly condemns divorce (leaving a loophole in some cases for the husbands of unfaithful women).
The apostle Paul echoed the Christian Lord's lack of interest in matters of the flesh. For him, celibacy was the Christian ideal, but family stability was the best alternative. Marry if you must, he told his audiences, but do not get divorced. "To the married I give this command (not I, but the Lord): a wife must not separate from her husband." It probably goes without saying that the phrase "gay marriage" does not appear in the Bible at all.
If the Bible doesn't give abundant examples of traditional marriage, then what are the gay-marriage opponents really exercised about? Well, homosexuality, of course—specifically sex between men. Sex between women has never, even in biblical times, raised as much ire. In its entry on "Homosexual Practices," the Anchor Bible Dictionary notes that nowhere in the Bible do its authors refer to sex between women, "possibly because it did not result in true physical 'union' (by male entry)." The Bible does condemn gay male sex in a handful of passages. Twice Leviticus refers to sex between men as "an abomination" (King James version), but these are throwaway lines in a peculiar text given over to codes for living in the ancient Jewish world, a text that devotes verse after verse to treatments for leprosy, cleanliness rituals for menstruating women and the correct way to sacrifice a goat—or a lamb or a turtle dove. Most of us no longer heed Leviticus on haircuts or blood sacrifices; our modern understanding of the world has surpassed its prescriptions. Why would we regard its condemnation of homosexuality with more seriousness than we regard its advice, which is far lengthier, on the best price to pay for a slave?
Paul was tough on homosexuality, though recently progressive scholars have argued that his condemnation of men who "were inflamed with lust for one another" (which he calls "a perversion") is really a critique of the worst kind of wickedness: self-delusion, violence, promiscuity and debauchery. In his book "The Arrogance of Nations," the scholar Neil Elliott argues that Paul is referring in this famous passage to the depravity of the Roman emperors, the craven habits of Nero and Caligula, a reference his audience would have grasped instantly. "Paul is not talking about what we call homosexuality at all," Elliott says. "He's talking about a certain group of people who have done everything in this list. We're not dealing with anything like gay love or gay marriage. We're talking about really, really violent people who meet their end and are judged by God." In any case, one might add, Paul argued more strenuously against divorce—and at least half of the Christians in America disregard that teaching.
Religious objections to gay marriage are rooted not in the Bible at all, then, but in custom and tradition (and, to talk turkey for a minute, a personal discomfort with gay sex that transcends theological argument). Common prayers and rituals reflect our common practice: the Episcopal Book of Common Prayer describes the participants in a marriage as "the man and the woman." But common practice changes—and for the better, as the Rev. Martin Luther King Jr.said, "The arc of history is long, but it bends toward justice." The Bible endorses slavery, a practice that Americans now universally consider shameful and barbaric. It recommends the death penalty for adulterers (and in Leviticus, for men who have sex with men, for that matter). It provides conceptual shelter for anti-Semites. A mature view of scriptural authority requires us, as we have in the past, to move beyond literalism. The Bible was written for a world so unlike our own, it's impossible to apply its rules, at face value, to ours.
Marriage, specifically, has evolved so as to be unrecognizable to the wives of Abraham and Jacob. Monogamy became the norm in the Christian world in the sixth century; husbands' frequent enjoyment of mistresses and prostitutes became taboo by the beginning of the 20th. (In the NEWSWEEK POLL, 55 percent of respondents said that married heterosexuals who have sex with someone other than their spouses are more morally objectionable than a gay couple in a committed sexual relationship.) By the mid-19th century, U.S. courts were siding with wives who were the victims of domestic violence, and by the 1970s most states had gotten rid of their"head and master" laws, which gave husbands the right to decide where a family would live and whether a wife would be able to take a job. Today's vision of marriage as a union of equal partners, joined in a relationship both romantic and pragmatic, is, by very recent standards, radical, says Stephanie Coontz, author of "Marriage, a History."
Religious wedding ceremonies have already changed to reflect new conceptions of marriage. Remember when we used to say "man and wife" instead of"husband and wife"? Remember when we stopped using the word "obey"? Even Miss Manners, the voice of tradition and reason, approved in 1997 of that change. "It seems," she wrote, "that dropping 'obey' was a sensible editing of a service that made assumptions about marriage that the society no longer holds."
We cannot look to the Bible as a marriage manual, but we can read it for universal truths as we struggle toward a more just future. The Bible offers inspiration and warning on the subjects of love, marriage, family and community. It speaks eloquently of the crucial role of families in a fair society and the risks we incur to ourselves and our children should we cease trying to bind ourselves together in loving pairs. Gay men like to point to the story of passionate King David and his friend Jonathan, with whom he was "one spirit" and whom he "loved as he loved himself." Conservatives say this is a story about a platonic friendship, but it is also a story about two men who stand up for each other in turbulent times, through violent war and the disapproval of a powerful parent. David rends his clothes at Jonathan's death and, in grieving, writes a song:
I grieve for you, Jonathan my brother;
You were very dear to me.
Your love for me was wonderful,
More wonderful than that of women.
Here, the Bible praises enduring love between men. What Jonathan and David did or did not do in privacy is perhaps best left to history and our own imaginations.
In addition to its praise of friendship and its condemnation of divorce, the Bible gives many examples of marriages that defy convention yet benefit the greater community. The Torah discouraged the ancient Hebrews from marrying outside the tribe, yet Moses himself is married to a foreigner, Zipporah. Queen Esther is married to a non-Jew and, according to legend, saves the Jewish people. Rabbi Arthur Waskow, of the Shalom Center in Philadelphia, believes that Judaism thrives through diversity and inclusion. "I don't think Judaism should or ought to want to leave any portion of the human population outside the religious process," he says. "We should not want to leave [homosexuals] outside the sacred tent." The marriage of Joseph and Mary is also unorthodox (to say the least), a case of an unconventional arrangement accepted by society for the common good. The boy needed two human parents, after all.
In the Christian story,the message of acceptance for all is codified. Jesus reaches out to everyone, especially those on the margins, and brings the whole Christian community into his embrace. The Rev. James Martin, a Jesuit priest and author, cites the story of Jesus revealing himself to the woman at the well— no matter that she had five former husbands and a current boyfriend—as evidence of Christ's all-encompassing love. The great Bible scholar Walter Brueggemann, emeritus professor at Columbia Theological Seminary, quotes the apostle Paul when he looks for biblical support of gay marriage: "There is neither Greek nor Jew, slave nor free, male nor female, for you are all one in Jesus Christ. "The religious argument for gay marriage, he adds, "is not generally made with reference to particular texts, but with the general conviction that the Bible is bent toward inclusiveness."
The practice of inclusion, even in defiance of social convention, the reaching out to outcasts, the emphasis on togetherness and community over and against chaos, depravity, indifference—all these biblical values argue for gay marriage. If one is for racial equality and the common nature of humanity, then the values of stability, monogamy and family necessarily follow. Terry Davis is the pastor of First Presbyterian Church in Hartford, Conn., and has been presiding over"holy unions" since 1992. "I'm against promiscuity—love ought to be expressed in committed relationships, not through casual sex, and I think the church should recognize the validity of committed same-sex relationships," he says.
Still, very few Jewish or Christian denominations do officially endorse gay marriage, even in the states where it is legal. The practice varies by region, by church or synagogue, even by cleric. More progressive denominations—the United Church of Christ, for example—have agreed to support gay marriage. Other denominations and dioceses will do "holy union" or "blessing"ceremonies, but shy away from the word "marriage" because it is politically explosive. So the frustrating, semantic question remains: should gay people be married in the same, sacramental sense that straight people are? I would argue that they should. If we are all God's children, made in his likeness and image, then to deny access to any sacrament based on sexuality is exactly the same thing as denying it based on skin color—and no serious (or even semi serious) person would argue that. People get married "for their mutual joy," explains the Rev. Chloe Breyer, executive director of the Interfaith Center in New York, quoting the Episcopal marriage ceremony. That's what religious people do: care for each other in spite of difficulty, she adds. In marriage, couples grow closer to God: "Being with one another in community is how you love God. That's what marriage is about."
More basic than theology, though, is human need. We want, as Abraham did, to grow old surrounded by friends and family and to be buried at last peacefully among them. We want, as Jesus taught, to love one another for our own good—and, not to be too grandiose about it, for the good of the world. We want our children to grow up in stable homes. What happens in the bedroom, really, has nothing to do with any of this. My friend the priest James Martin says his favorite Scripture relating to the question of homosexuality is Psalm 139, a song that praises the beauty and imperfection in all of us and that glorifies God's knowledge of our most secret selves: "I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made." And then he adds that in his heart he believes that if Jesus were alive today, he would reach out especially to the gays and lesbians among us, for "Jesus does not want people to be lonely and sad." Let the priest's prayer be our own.
With Sarah Ball and Anne Underwood
URL: http://www.newsweek.com/id/172653
© 2008
Saturday, December 6, 2008
AGING PARENTS
My 84 year-old father is in the nursing unit at the retirement community where my parents live. He has congrestive heart failure which I knew nothing about until my uncle had the same thing. chf is caused by a build-up of fluid in the heart chamber. Consequently it places pressure on the heart, causing reduced oxygen to the brain and any number of problems because of that. In my uncle's case he remained alert and interested in things until he died after a few years with the disease. In my dad's case it has left him confused, which is distressing to all of us but especially to my mother, also 84, who is with him daily. My sister and I are doing the best we can to be of help but we both live at a distance and so our visits are infrequent. I talk to my dad regularly and I always end my phone calls by saying "I love you," because I do, and you never know when that will be the last conversation you have. Guide us waking and guard us sleeping, that awake we may watch with Christ and asleep we may rest in peace. - The Book of Common Prayer
Saturday, November 15, 2008
Care to guess where this came from?
One of my (bad) habits is surfing the web late at night when I should be doing homework or in bed. Tonight I was educating myself on programs of study at various California seminaries and colleges when I came across the following:
"Church teaching makes certain judgments about the personal sinfulness of acts ... the prejudice against homosexuals is a greater infringement of the norm of Christian morality than is homosexual orientation or activity."
I must admit I was rather surprised upon discovering that this statement was issued by the Washington State Catholic Conference in 1983. What is not so surprising is that I found it on the website of Santa Clara University, a Jesuit institution in the Bay Area of Northern California. The Jesuits (Society of Jesus) are well known for their scholarship as well as their liberal approach to social issues. Perhaps this statement of purpose from the University bulletin is a fitting summation:
"The University is thus dedicated to a community enriched by men and women of diverse backgrounds, respectful of difference and enlivened by open dialogue, caring and just toward others, and committed to broad participation in achieving the common good.
"Church teaching makes certain judgments about the personal sinfulness of acts ... the prejudice against homosexuals is a greater infringement of the norm of Christian morality than is homosexual orientation or activity."
I must admit I was rather surprised upon discovering that this statement was issued by the Washington State Catholic Conference in 1983. What is not so surprising is that I found it on the website of Santa Clara University, a Jesuit institution in the Bay Area of Northern California. The Jesuits (Society of Jesus) are well known for their scholarship as well as their liberal approach to social issues. Perhaps this statement of purpose from the University bulletin is a fitting summation:
"The University is thus dedicated to a community enriched by men and women of diverse backgrounds, respectful of difference and enlivened by open dialogue, caring and just toward others, and committed to broad participation in achieving the common good.
Sunday, November 2, 2008
Rosicrucian prayer
Lest you think I have taken complete leave of my senses and joined the Rosicrucians, a mystical order of the "rose cross" originating in Medieval Germany, let me assure you that is not true - however, I came across the following prayer on "war" which I found moving as well as germane to our times. May it speak to you as well:
I am guilty of war when I proudly exercise
my intelligence to the disadvantage of my fellow man.
I am guilty of war when I distort other's opinions,
which differ from my own.
I am guilty of war when I show disregard
for the rights and properties of others.
I am guilty of war when I covet what another has honestly acquired.
I am guilty of war when I seek to maintain my superiority of position by depriving others of their opportunity of advancement.
I am guilty of war if I imagine my kin and myself to be a privileged people.
I am guilty of war if I believe a heritage entitles me
to monopolize resources of nature.
I am guilty of war when I believe other people must think and live as I do.
I am guilty of war when I make success in life solely dependent
upon power, fame, and riches.
I am guilty of war when I think the minds of people should
be regulated by force, rather than by reason.
I am guilty of war when I believe the God I conceive is
the one others must accept.
I am guilty of war when I think that a land of a man's birth
must necessarily be the place of his livelihood.
When all men will frankly perceive their common dependence, an understanding will emerge that will transcend the barriers of time and space, creed and race.
Rosicrucian Order - creed of peace - Ralph M. Lewis - 1944
I am guilty of war when I proudly exercise
my intelligence to the disadvantage of my fellow man.
I am guilty of war when I distort other's opinions,
which differ from my own.
I am guilty of war when I show disregard
for the rights and properties of others.
I am guilty of war when I covet what another has honestly acquired.
I am guilty of war when I seek to maintain my superiority of position by depriving others of their opportunity of advancement.
I am guilty of war if I imagine my kin and myself to be a privileged people.
I am guilty of war if I believe a heritage entitles me
to monopolize resources of nature.
I am guilty of war when I believe other people must think and live as I do.
I am guilty of war when I make success in life solely dependent
upon power, fame, and riches.
I am guilty of war when I think the minds of people should
be regulated by force, rather than by reason.
I am guilty of war when I believe the God I conceive is
the one others must accept.
I am guilty of war when I think that a land of a man's birth
must necessarily be the place of his livelihood.
When all men will frankly perceive their common dependence, an understanding will emerge that will transcend the barriers of time and space, creed and race.
Rosicrucian Order - creed of peace - Ralph M. Lewis - 1944
Wednesday, October 15, 2008
PIETY AND POLITICS ON THE ROAD TO THE WHITE HOUSE
"Piety and Politics on the Road to the White House"
by John H. Thomas
General Minister and President, The United Church of Christ
Address given at The City Club Forum
Cleveland, Ohio
October 10, 2008
----------------
Long before “God bless America” became the mandatory benediction for
presidential campaign speeches, religion played a shaping role in presidential politics.
George Washington, in his first inaugural address, spent nearly a quarter of his relatively
short speech acknowledging “the Great Author of every public and private good,” and
noting “the Invisible Hand which conducts the affairs of men” and which, he believed,
represented a “providential agency” that had advanced the United States to the “character
of an independent nation.” A recent historical study of the 1840 election between the
Whig, William Henry Harrison, and the incumbent Democrat, Martin Van Buren, reveals
the religious demographic of the vote, with preferences clearly marked by
denominational affiliation and, in some cases, by theological perspective within
denominations. While the fortunes of the economy loomed large in the election – Whigs
nicknamed the president Martin Van Ruin as the economy slipped into recession – the
peculiar pieties of Americans manifested themselves strongly on Election Day.
I begin with these historical references as a reminder that theological perspective,
denominational ethos, and personal piety have played an important role in American
public life for a long time, sometimes in deeply spiritual ways, often in more superficial
veneers or even in embarrassing bigotry and prejudice. Woodrow Wilson’s expansive
internationalist moral vision exemplified in the American crusade to make the world safe
for democracy and in his quest to establish the League of Nations displayed him as an
heir to the impulses of the 19th century Evangelical social reformers who railed against
the evils of slavery and alcohol. Contrast that with Al Smith, the first Catholic candidate
for president who endured vicious attacks from nativist and anti-Catholic antagonists.
When pressed by reporters for how his views contrasted with various papal encyclicals
2
deemed inconsistent with American ideals, is reported to have replied, “Will someone tell
me what the hell a papal encyclical is?”
Jimmy Carter, who spoke comfortably of his own evangelical piety, confounded
liberal Protestants and secularists with the image of a sophisticated President who was
also a regular Sunday School teacher in his Southern Baptist church in rural Plains,
Georgia. Contrast that with Howard Dean who, in his attempt to claim the mantle of
piety famously overreached when asked to name his favorite New Testament book. He
responded, “the Book of Job.” Whoops. Where were Job’s friends when Howard needed
them! Ronald Reagan somehow managed to convey the impression of a deeply personal
Christian piety without any potentially awkward connection to a particular denomination,
tradition, set of doctrines, or local church membership, something Barack Obama no
doubt wished he could have done last Spring when his affiliation with Trinity United
Church of Christ and the Rev. Jeremiah Wright nearly scuttled his candidacy.
George W. Bush is, in an odd and perhaps not immediately apparent way,
reminiscent of Woodrow Wilson, though one would never confuse the two for the
language and style of their piety remains dramatically different. Yet one senses in both
presidents a highly personalized, one might even say pretentious piety that involves an
almost mystical relationship to God or Jesus, a relationship granting them a privileged
and uncontestable moral vision for the world that is inaccessible to the rest of us mere
mortals and, therefore, unaccountable in political terms. There was for Wilson and is for
Bush a principled – perhaps we might say “messianic” – certainty unencumbered by
intellectual or religious doubt that leaves us somewhat breathless, either in admiration or
fear. In the hands of ideological zealots such piety becomes a potent weapon, as likely to
lead to tragedy and disaster as to the Kingdom of God.
On September 12, 1960, Democratic candidate John F. Kennedy gave a major
speech before the Greater Houston Ministerial Association to address the significance of
his Catholic faith in the face of the lingering anti-Catholic feelings of many voters. It
was, from a political standpoint, a successful speech, reassuring the audience of
Kennedy’s commitment to the separation of church and state and stressing that “I am not
the Catholic candidate for president. I am the Democratic Party’s candidate for president,
3
who happens also to be a Catholic. I do not speak for my church on public matters, and
the church does not speak for me.”
Central to Kennedy’s speech was a tight compartmentalization of faith, personal
piety, and public responsibility. He called for a nation “where no Catholic prelate would
tell the president how to act, and no Protestant minister would tell his parishioners for
whom to vote. . . .” He professed belief in an America “where no public official either
requests or accepts instructions on public policy from the Pope, the National Council of
Churches, or any other ecclesiastical source.” Kennedy noted that pamphlets quoting
Catholic leaders had been circulating. “I do not consider these. . . quotations binding
upon my public acts.” Rhetorically he concluded with what he perhaps intended to
suggest was his true creed and his allegiance to his primary sacred text: “If I should win
the election, then I shall devote every effort of mind and spirit to fulfilling the oath of the
presidency. . . . For without reservation, I can “solemnly swear that I will preserve,
protect, and defend the Constitution, so help me God.”
Kennedy’s attempt to privatize religion was not so much a reaffirmation of the
separation of church and state, or the disentangling of religion and politics, as it was an
attempt to divide private piety and public life into two separate arenas a President can
inhabit at the same time without one shaping the other. It was as if he were saying,
“Don’t worry, there’s nothing about my Catholic faith that will intrude into my public
responsibility.” Given the political needs of the day, Kennedy may have had to say that.
And given what we know of Kennedy, he was perhaps telling the absolute truth about
himself! This makes all the more ironic the near canonization of the Kennedys by many
Roman Catholics of a certain generation. I vividly recall the entryway to Alphonse
Morello’s Funeral Home in Easton, Pennsylvania where I served as a pastor. On one side
were portraits of Pope John Paul II and the Virgin Mary. On the other side of the foyer
were Jack and Jackie. The holy family according to the Democratic Party!
In 2006, forty six years after Kennedy’s speech, another soon-to-be Democratic
candidate for president, Senator Barack Obama, would give a markedly different speech
about the relationship of faith and public life. Much had changed. Evangelicals, and
more conservative Catholics had entered public life with vigor with the rise of the Moral
Majority, the Christian Coalition, and family values leaders like Gary Bauer and James
4
Dobson. The so-called “culture wars” had raged with issues like school prayer, Roe v.
Wade, the rights of homosexual persons, creationism and intelligent design captive to the
political process and exploited eagerly in presidential campaigns, perhaps most
dramatically in places like Ohio in 2004 where Bush’s slim majority rested, at least in
part, on wedge voters provoked to anxiety over the specter of gay marriage. Religion had
roared back into presidential campaigns in highly partisan ways, making candidates’
piety at least as important to many voters as their more traditional credentials.
In the wake of all of this, Obama’s speech proposed a new engagement of faith
and public life, and by extension a new way to view the issue of piety and presidential
politics. “It’s time,” said Obama, “to join a serious debate about how to reconcile faith
with our modern, pluralistic democracy.” Obama was critical of conservatives, “all too
happy. . . to remind evangelical Christians that Democrats [allegedly] disrespect their
values and dislike their church, while suggesting to the rest of the country that religious
Americans care only about issues like abortion and gay marriage; school prayer and
intelligent design.” But his sharper critique went to the Democrats who at best, he said,
“try to avoid the conversation about religion and values altogether,” or at worst, “dismiss
religion in the public square as inherently irrational or intolerant, insisting on a caricature
of religious Americans that paints them as fanatical.” Senator Obama demonstrated his
split with Kennedy most clearly when he said, “secularists are wrong when they ask
believers to leave their religion at the door before entering into the public square. . . . To
say that men and women should not inject their ‘personal morality’ into public policy
debates is a practical absurdity.”
One way to read Obama’s speech is to see it as a call for progressives to
reacquaint themselves with the language of piety. But it is certainly also a call to liberate
piety – and the church – from captivity by the far right of the political spectrum. As one
commentator describes the organizers of the Moral Majority and Christian Coalition,
“their primary goal was not religious but political; to enlist evangelicals, many of whom
had eschewed political activism altogether, behind conservative Republican candidates.”
Indeed, one of their colleagues described evangelicals as “the greatest tract of virgin
timber on the political landscape.”
5
Many believe 2004 was the high water mark of the marriage of Evangelicals with
the Republican Party. Sarah Palin’s selection was, in part, an attempt to re-ignite the
wars of religion that had benefited Republicans in previous elections, but the strategy
doesn’t seem to have gained much traction beyond the right wing base of the party. It
does seem to be the case that the dominance of so-called family values as political litmus
tests has slipped in prominence. Even Evangelicals are calling for a broader agenda.
Richard Cizik of the National Association of Evangelicals, responding to critics like
Dobson and Bauer, rejected the notion that an embrace of concern for creation meant
betraying the pro-life cause: “Tell the parents of children who are mentally disabled
because of mercury poisoning – tell them that the environment is not a sanctity-of-life
issue.” And there are many Catholics beginning to stand up to the threats of bishops
refusing communion to candidates over the issue of abortion, recalling their church to the
broader moral agenda of a “seamless robe” concern for the sanctify of life championed by
leaders like Cardinals Bernadin of Chicago and McCarrick of Washington.
I have no doubt that Senator Obama’s reflections on the relationship of faith and
public life are sincere. They are consistent with his own religious biography eloquently
laid out in his book, The Audacity of Hope. But there is also a political calculation. His
speech in 2006 was given at a conference organized by the socially progressive
Evangelical leader, Jim Wallis. Obama’s friendships include the well known Evangelical
and author of The Purpose Driven Life, Pastor Rick Warren, as well as so-called
“emergent church” leaders Tony Jones and Brian McLaren. At a closed door meeting of
religious leaders with Obama in Chicago in June, only a handful of us represented the old
liberal mainline Protestant churches. Most were a new generation of Evangelical leaders
like megachurch pastor Joel Hunter and Rich Cizik who have broken from the old
religious right in their embrace of other moral issues like global poverty, AIDS, the
environment, education, health-care and the like.
At the meeting in Chicago with Senator Obama, Franklin Graham, son of Billy
Graham, played the “guilt by association” ploy, noting Obama’s “Muslim background,”
and then proceeded to relentlessly press the Senator on the question, “Do you believe
Jesus Christ is the way, the truth and the life, the only way to salvation?” Rev. Joseph
Lowrey, the old war horse of the Civil Rights movement, nearly bolted from his chair
6
next to mine in objection to this line of questioning. Do we really need to know what our
president thinks about this complex text from the Gospel of John? The exchange raised
for me the central question of this lecture: “What kind of piety is needed in today’s
public square, and in the occupant of the White House?”
Early in our history, John Adams wrote Thomas Jefferson about the dangerous
and corrupting power of human self-deception: “Power always thinks it has a great soul
and vast views beyond the comprehension of the weak; and that it is doing God’s service
when it is violating all His laws.” Adam’s letter is cited in Reinhold Niebuhr’s book, The
Irony of American History, written in 1952 to address the Cold War struggle between
communism and freedom. Niebuhr was a profound public theologian who distained the
naïve optimism of theological liberalism as well as the privatized piety of those whose
religion actually masked the narrow parochialism of conventionality and American
smugness. He called for an active, “realistic” engagement in the world, tempered by a
healthy regard for original sin and its expression in human vanity and pride, both
expressed in personal and corporate ways. Written in the years following the triumphs of
World War II, Niebuhr’s book challenged the dangers of unrestrained American idealism.
To read it today amid the new American messianic zeal and religious certainty of our
current War on Terror is to be haunted by lessons not learned from Adams.
Not surprisingly, the President to whom Niebuhr turns at the end of his book is
Abraham Lincoln, quoting from the Second Inaugural. It is worth hearing again in the
current context:
Neither party expected for the war the magnitude or the duration which it has
already attained. Neither anticipated that the cause of the conflict might cease
with or even before the conflict itself should cease. Each looked for an easier
triumph, and a result less fundamental and astounding. Both read the same Bible
and pray to the same God, and each invokes His aid against the other. It may
seem strange that any men should dare to ask a just God’s assistance in wringing
their bread from the sweat of other men’s faces, but let us judge not, that we be
not judged. The prayers of both could not be answered. That of neither has been
answered fully. The Almighty has His own purposes. . . . Fondly do we hope,
fervently do we pray, that this mighty scourge of war may speedily pass away.
7
Yet if God wills that it continue until all the wealth piled by the bondsman’s two
hundred and fifty years of unrequited toil shall be sunk, and until every drop of
blood drawn with the lash shall be paid by another drawn with the sword, as we
said three thousand years ago, so still it must be said, “the judgments of the Lord
are true and righteous altogether.”
Lincoln’s piety – and his rhetoric – saw beyond narrow partisan interest to an arc
of providence that both encompasses and motivates our actions, and at the same time
limits the seductive dangers of our own pretentions. Historian Allen Guelzo of
Gettysburg College leaves us with an agnostic Lincoln in his book Redeemer President,
agnostic in the sense of not being able to claim with certainty a personal relationship to a
divine Father in the more classic evangelical mold. We are a long way from our current
president who seems to have seen God face to face and who hears Him with some
regularity. No, Lincoln’s is a different kind of piety, steeped says Guelzo in “faith in
divine superintendency,” a confrontation “with the Calvinist God who could not be
captured or domesticated. . . , who possessed a conscious will to intervene, challenge,
and reshape human destinies without regard for historical process.” Guelzo suggests,
echoing Niebuhrian themes, that
it was the tension between his Calvinistic “melancholy” and his bourgeois
aggressiveness which acted as the best mutual restraint. . . . His confidence in the
direction of providence kept his determinism from collapsing into helplessness in
the darkest hours of the war, and it was his determinism that prevented his . . .
optimism from soaring into arrogance in victory.
One wonders where we might be today had such a piety and rhetoric guided our
nation through the seven years since September 11, 2001. Could we hope for a
presidential piety and for forms of religious engagement in public life that move beyond
secular distain on the one hand and partisan certainty on the other, in short, a piety rooted
not in utter assurance and arrogance, but in a confident faith tempered by doubt and
humility in our own human capacities? And could we dare hope for a political process
where such a piety might actually be honored and valued rather than swept away before
parochial moral litmus tests or lost in the foolishness of backing a candidate solely on the
basis of whether he or she believes Jesus is the only way to salvation?
8
Niebuhr does not use the term piety. But surely it is to a public and personal piety
that he refers as he draws his book on democracy’s struggle with Communism and his
reflection on Lincoln to a close:
There is, in short, even in a conflict with a foe with whom we have little in
common the possibility and necessity of living in a dimension of meaning in
which the urgencies of the struggle are subordinated to a sense of awe before the
vastness of the historical drama in which we are jointly involved; to a sense of
modesty about the virtue, wisdom and power available to us for the resolution of
its perplexities; to a sense of contrition about the common human frailties and
foibles which lie at the foundation of both the enemy’s demonry and our vanities;
and to a sense of gratitude for the divine mercies which are promised to those who
humble themselves.
American voters are, it seems, easily seduced by optimistic and self-righteous
interpretations of their own history, by messianic convictions about their current
circumstances, and by the notion that their public life, their commonwealth, can easily be
reduced to the diminished virtues of either “blue” or “red.” The road to the White House
has not often been paved with theological subtlety or a piety marked by modesty in the
face of the historical drama in which we are involved. In recent years in particular God
has been enlisted in the partisan fray with an ideological certainty that makes a mockery
of the awe toward which Niebuhr beckoned. But it is worth remembering – both in
gratitude and in hope – that, at the most perilous moment in our national history, we were
guided by a president more trusting in the mystery and majesty of God’s providence than
in the platitudes and certainties of his own faith, a providence in which blue and gray
were both inextricably linked and whose trajectory cannot and must not ever be easily
conformed to our own crusade, no matter how grand or noble it might appear.
by John H. Thomas
General Minister and President, The United Church of Christ
Address given at The City Club Forum
Cleveland, Ohio
October 10, 2008
----------------
Long before “God bless America” became the mandatory benediction for
presidential campaign speeches, religion played a shaping role in presidential politics.
George Washington, in his first inaugural address, spent nearly a quarter of his relatively
short speech acknowledging “the Great Author of every public and private good,” and
noting “the Invisible Hand which conducts the affairs of men” and which, he believed,
represented a “providential agency” that had advanced the United States to the “character
of an independent nation.” A recent historical study of the 1840 election between the
Whig, William Henry Harrison, and the incumbent Democrat, Martin Van Buren, reveals
the religious demographic of the vote, with preferences clearly marked by
denominational affiliation and, in some cases, by theological perspective within
denominations. While the fortunes of the economy loomed large in the election – Whigs
nicknamed the president Martin Van Ruin as the economy slipped into recession – the
peculiar pieties of Americans manifested themselves strongly on Election Day.
I begin with these historical references as a reminder that theological perspective,
denominational ethos, and personal piety have played an important role in American
public life for a long time, sometimes in deeply spiritual ways, often in more superficial
veneers or even in embarrassing bigotry and prejudice. Woodrow Wilson’s expansive
internationalist moral vision exemplified in the American crusade to make the world safe
for democracy and in his quest to establish the League of Nations displayed him as an
heir to the impulses of the 19th century Evangelical social reformers who railed against
the evils of slavery and alcohol. Contrast that with Al Smith, the first Catholic candidate
for president who endured vicious attacks from nativist and anti-Catholic antagonists.
When pressed by reporters for how his views contrasted with various papal encyclicals
2
deemed inconsistent with American ideals, is reported to have replied, “Will someone tell
me what the hell a papal encyclical is?”
Jimmy Carter, who spoke comfortably of his own evangelical piety, confounded
liberal Protestants and secularists with the image of a sophisticated President who was
also a regular Sunday School teacher in his Southern Baptist church in rural Plains,
Georgia. Contrast that with Howard Dean who, in his attempt to claim the mantle of
piety famously overreached when asked to name his favorite New Testament book. He
responded, “the Book of Job.” Whoops. Where were Job’s friends when Howard needed
them! Ronald Reagan somehow managed to convey the impression of a deeply personal
Christian piety without any potentially awkward connection to a particular denomination,
tradition, set of doctrines, or local church membership, something Barack Obama no
doubt wished he could have done last Spring when his affiliation with Trinity United
Church of Christ and the Rev. Jeremiah Wright nearly scuttled his candidacy.
George W. Bush is, in an odd and perhaps not immediately apparent way,
reminiscent of Woodrow Wilson, though one would never confuse the two for the
language and style of their piety remains dramatically different. Yet one senses in both
presidents a highly personalized, one might even say pretentious piety that involves an
almost mystical relationship to God or Jesus, a relationship granting them a privileged
and uncontestable moral vision for the world that is inaccessible to the rest of us mere
mortals and, therefore, unaccountable in political terms. There was for Wilson and is for
Bush a principled – perhaps we might say “messianic” – certainty unencumbered by
intellectual or religious doubt that leaves us somewhat breathless, either in admiration or
fear. In the hands of ideological zealots such piety becomes a potent weapon, as likely to
lead to tragedy and disaster as to the Kingdom of God.
On September 12, 1960, Democratic candidate John F. Kennedy gave a major
speech before the Greater Houston Ministerial Association to address the significance of
his Catholic faith in the face of the lingering anti-Catholic feelings of many voters. It
was, from a political standpoint, a successful speech, reassuring the audience of
Kennedy’s commitment to the separation of church and state and stressing that “I am not
the Catholic candidate for president. I am the Democratic Party’s candidate for president,
3
who happens also to be a Catholic. I do not speak for my church on public matters, and
the church does not speak for me.”
Central to Kennedy’s speech was a tight compartmentalization of faith, personal
piety, and public responsibility. He called for a nation “where no Catholic prelate would
tell the president how to act, and no Protestant minister would tell his parishioners for
whom to vote. . . .” He professed belief in an America “where no public official either
requests or accepts instructions on public policy from the Pope, the National Council of
Churches, or any other ecclesiastical source.” Kennedy noted that pamphlets quoting
Catholic leaders had been circulating. “I do not consider these. . . quotations binding
upon my public acts.” Rhetorically he concluded with what he perhaps intended to
suggest was his true creed and his allegiance to his primary sacred text: “If I should win
the election, then I shall devote every effort of mind and spirit to fulfilling the oath of the
presidency. . . . For without reservation, I can “solemnly swear that I will preserve,
protect, and defend the Constitution, so help me God.”
Kennedy’s attempt to privatize religion was not so much a reaffirmation of the
separation of church and state, or the disentangling of religion and politics, as it was an
attempt to divide private piety and public life into two separate arenas a President can
inhabit at the same time without one shaping the other. It was as if he were saying,
“Don’t worry, there’s nothing about my Catholic faith that will intrude into my public
responsibility.” Given the political needs of the day, Kennedy may have had to say that.
And given what we know of Kennedy, he was perhaps telling the absolute truth about
himself! This makes all the more ironic the near canonization of the Kennedys by many
Roman Catholics of a certain generation. I vividly recall the entryway to Alphonse
Morello’s Funeral Home in Easton, Pennsylvania where I served as a pastor. On one side
were portraits of Pope John Paul II and the Virgin Mary. On the other side of the foyer
were Jack and Jackie. The holy family according to the Democratic Party!
In 2006, forty six years after Kennedy’s speech, another soon-to-be Democratic
candidate for president, Senator Barack Obama, would give a markedly different speech
about the relationship of faith and public life. Much had changed. Evangelicals, and
more conservative Catholics had entered public life with vigor with the rise of the Moral
Majority, the Christian Coalition, and family values leaders like Gary Bauer and James
4
Dobson. The so-called “culture wars” had raged with issues like school prayer, Roe v.
Wade, the rights of homosexual persons, creationism and intelligent design captive to the
political process and exploited eagerly in presidential campaigns, perhaps most
dramatically in places like Ohio in 2004 where Bush’s slim majority rested, at least in
part, on wedge voters provoked to anxiety over the specter of gay marriage. Religion had
roared back into presidential campaigns in highly partisan ways, making candidates’
piety at least as important to many voters as their more traditional credentials.
In the wake of all of this, Obama’s speech proposed a new engagement of faith
and public life, and by extension a new way to view the issue of piety and presidential
politics. “It’s time,” said Obama, “to join a serious debate about how to reconcile faith
with our modern, pluralistic democracy.” Obama was critical of conservatives, “all too
happy. . . to remind evangelical Christians that Democrats [allegedly] disrespect their
values and dislike their church, while suggesting to the rest of the country that religious
Americans care only about issues like abortion and gay marriage; school prayer and
intelligent design.” But his sharper critique went to the Democrats who at best, he said,
“try to avoid the conversation about religion and values altogether,” or at worst, “dismiss
religion in the public square as inherently irrational or intolerant, insisting on a caricature
of religious Americans that paints them as fanatical.” Senator Obama demonstrated his
split with Kennedy most clearly when he said, “secularists are wrong when they ask
believers to leave their religion at the door before entering into the public square. . . . To
say that men and women should not inject their ‘personal morality’ into public policy
debates is a practical absurdity.”
One way to read Obama’s speech is to see it as a call for progressives to
reacquaint themselves with the language of piety. But it is certainly also a call to liberate
piety – and the church – from captivity by the far right of the political spectrum. As one
commentator describes the organizers of the Moral Majority and Christian Coalition,
“their primary goal was not religious but political; to enlist evangelicals, many of whom
had eschewed political activism altogether, behind conservative Republican candidates.”
Indeed, one of their colleagues described evangelicals as “the greatest tract of virgin
timber on the political landscape.”
5
Many believe 2004 was the high water mark of the marriage of Evangelicals with
the Republican Party. Sarah Palin’s selection was, in part, an attempt to re-ignite the
wars of religion that had benefited Republicans in previous elections, but the strategy
doesn’t seem to have gained much traction beyond the right wing base of the party. It
does seem to be the case that the dominance of so-called family values as political litmus
tests has slipped in prominence. Even Evangelicals are calling for a broader agenda.
Richard Cizik of the National Association of Evangelicals, responding to critics like
Dobson and Bauer, rejected the notion that an embrace of concern for creation meant
betraying the pro-life cause: “Tell the parents of children who are mentally disabled
because of mercury poisoning – tell them that the environment is not a sanctity-of-life
issue.” And there are many Catholics beginning to stand up to the threats of bishops
refusing communion to candidates over the issue of abortion, recalling their church to the
broader moral agenda of a “seamless robe” concern for the sanctify of life championed by
leaders like Cardinals Bernadin of Chicago and McCarrick of Washington.
I have no doubt that Senator Obama’s reflections on the relationship of faith and
public life are sincere. They are consistent with his own religious biography eloquently
laid out in his book, The Audacity of Hope. But there is also a political calculation. His
speech in 2006 was given at a conference organized by the socially progressive
Evangelical leader, Jim Wallis. Obama’s friendships include the well known Evangelical
and author of The Purpose Driven Life, Pastor Rick Warren, as well as so-called
“emergent church” leaders Tony Jones and Brian McLaren. At a closed door meeting of
religious leaders with Obama in Chicago in June, only a handful of us represented the old
liberal mainline Protestant churches. Most were a new generation of Evangelical leaders
like megachurch pastor Joel Hunter and Rich Cizik who have broken from the old
religious right in their embrace of other moral issues like global poverty, AIDS, the
environment, education, health-care and the like.
At the meeting in Chicago with Senator Obama, Franklin Graham, son of Billy
Graham, played the “guilt by association” ploy, noting Obama’s “Muslim background,”
and then proceeded to relentlessly press the Senator on the question, “Do you believe
Jesus Christ is the way, the truth and the life, the only way to salvation?” Rev. Joseph
Lowrey, the old war horse of the Civil Rights movement, nearly bolted from his chair
6
next to mine in objection to this line of questioning. Do we really need to know what our
president thinks about this complex text from the Gospel of John? The exchange raised
for me the central question of this lecture: “What kind of piety is needed in today’s
public square, and in the occupant of the White House?”
Early in our history, John Adams wrote Thomas Jefferson about the dangerous
and corrupting power of human self-deception: “Power always thinks it has a great soul
and vast views beyond the comprehension of the weak; and that it is doing God’s service
when it is violating all His laws.” Adam’s letter is cited in Reinhold Niebuhr’s book, The
Irony of American History, written in 1952 to address the Cold War struggle between
communism and freedom. Niebuhr was a profound public theologian who distained the
naïve optimism of theological liberalism as well as the privatized piety of those whose
religion actually masked the narrow parochialism of conventionality and American
smugness. He called for an active, “realistic” engagement in the world, tempered by a
healthy regard for original sin and its expression in human vanity and pride, both
expressed in personal and corporate ways. Written in the years following the triumphs of
World War II, Niebuhr’s book challenged the dangers of unrestrained American idealism.
To read it today amid the new American messianic zeal and religious certainty of our
current War on Terror is to be haunted by lessons not learned from Adams.
Not surprisingly, the President to whom Niebuhr turns at the end of his book is
Abraham Lincoln, quoting from the Second Inaugural. It is worth hearing again in the
current context:
Neither party expected for the war the magnitude or the duration which it has
already attained. Neither anticipated that the cause of the conflict might cease
with or even before the conflict itself should cease. Each looked for an easier
triumph, and a result less fundamental and astounding. Both read the same Bible
and pray to the same God, and each invokes His aid against the other. It may
seem strange that any men should dare to ask a just God’s assistance in wringing
their bread from the sweat of other men’s faces, but let us judge not, that we be
not judged. The prayers of both could not be answered. That of neither has been
answered fully. The Almighty has His own purposes. . . . Fondly do we hope,
fervently do we pray, that this mighty scourge of war may speedily pass away.
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Yet if God wills that it continue until all the wealth piled by the bondsman’s two
hundred and fifty years of unrequited toil shall be sunk, and until every drop of
blood drawn with the lash shall be paid by another drawn with the sword, as we
said three thousand years ago, so still it must be said, “the judgments of the Lord
are true and righteous altogether.”
Lincoln’s piety – and his rhetoric – saw beyond narrow partisan interest to an arc
of providence that both encompasses and motivates our actions, and at the same time
limits the seductive dangers of our own pretentions. Historian Allen Guelzo of
Gettysburg College leaves us with an agnostic Lincoln in his book Redeemer President,
agnostic in the sense of not being able to claim with certainty a personal relationship to a
divine Father in the more classic evangelical mold. We are a long way from our current
president who seems to have seen God face to face and who hears Him with some
regularity. No, Lincoln’s is a different kind of piety, steeped says Guelzo in “faith in
divine superintendency,” a confrontation “with the Calvinist God who could not be
captured or domesticated. . . , who possessed a conscious will to intervene, challenge,
and reshape human destinies without regard for historical process.” Guelzo suggests,
echoing Niebuhrian themes, that
it was the tension between his Calvinistic “melancholy” and his bourgeois
aggressiveness which acted as the best mutual restraint. . . . His confidence in the
direction of providence kept his determinism from collapsing into helplessness in
the darkest hours of the war, and it was his determinism that prevented his . . .
optimism from soaring into arrogance in victory.
One wonders where we might be today had such a piety and rhetoric guided our
nation through the seven years since September 11, 2001. Could we hope for a
presidential piety and for forms of religious engagement in public life that move beyond
secular distain on the one hand and partisan certainty on the other, in short, a piety rooted
not in utter assurance and arrogance, but in a confident faith tempered by doubt and
humility in our own human capacities? And could we dare hope for a political process
where such a piety might actually be honored and valued rather than swept away before
parochial moral litmus tests or lost in the foolishness of backing a candidate solely on the
basis of whether he or she believes Jesus is the only way to salvation?
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Niebuhr does not use the term piety. But surely it is to a public and personal piety
that he refers as he draws his book on democracy’s struggle with Communism and his
reflection on Lincoln to a close:
There is, in short, even in a conflict with a foe with whom we have little in
common the possibility and necessity of living in a dimension of meaning in
which the urgencies of the struggle are subordinated to a sense of awe before the
vastness of the historical drama in which we are jointly involved; to a sense of
modesty about the virtue, wisdom and power available to us for the resolution of
its perplexities; to a sense of contrition about the common human frailties and
foibles which lie at the foundation of both the enemy’s demonry and our vanities;
and to a sense of gratitude for the divine mercies which are promised to those who
humble themselves.
American voters are, it seems, easily seduced by optimistic and self-righteous
interpretations of their own history, by messianic convictions about their current
circumstances, and by the notion that their public life, their commonwealth, can easily be
reduced to the diminished virtues of either “blue” or “red.” The road to the White House
has not often been paved with theological subtlety or a piety marked by modesty in the
face of the historical drama in which we are involved. In recent years in particular God
has been enlisted in the partisan fray with an ideological certainty that makes a mockery
of the awe toward which Niebuhr beckoned. But it is worth remembering – both in
gratitude and in hope – that, at the most perilous moment in our national history, we were
guided by a president more trusting in the mystery and majesty of God’s providence than
in the platitudes and certainties of his own faith, a providence in which blue and gray
were both inextricably linked and whose trajectory cannot and must not ever be easily
conformed to our own crusade, no matter how grand or noble it might appear.
Saturday, October 11, 2008
A California priest's courageous homily
On November 4, California voters will be asked to make a crucial decision regarding gay marriage. This year the California Supreme Court ruled that gay mariage is legal in this state - not only for residents, but for any couple coming from out of state who wished to be married here. A group of homophobic citizens challenged that decision by accumulating enough signatures from like-minded registered voters to put the issue before the populace on the November ballot. The result is Proposition 8, which states, in sum, "Shall the Constitution of the State of California be amended to read that only marriage between a man and a woman is legal in the State?" Thus a YES vote would so limit the Constitution and deny same sex couples the right to marry in this state. A NO vote would not so limit the Constitution, thus allowing same sex marriage. As one might imagine, there is a lot of emotional energy (and money) being expended by persons and groups advocating for their respective positions. Many UCC churches in the Bay Area and throughout the state are urging a NO vote on Prop 8. (There may be some confusion at the polls if persons opposed to gay marriage think they should be voting NO, and/or persons in favor of gay marriage think they should be voting YES. I myself encapsulate the issue this way: 8 = hate. If you are against hate - and homophobia - then you should vote NO. If you are in favor of prejudice - and homophobia - then you should vote YES).
With all this in mind, I commend to your attention this homily recently given by a Roman Catholic priest in the Diocese of Fresno, an agricultural region in what we call the Central Valley (aka San Joaquin Valley):
ABC Action News Exclusive - Father Geoffrey Farrow of the Saint Paul Newman Center in northeast Fresno shocked parishioners Sunday morning when he came out against Proposition 8, an initiative that would eliminate the right for same sex couples to marry in California.http://abclocal.go.com/kfsn/story?section=news/local&id=6431105 Below is the homily that Geoffrey Farrow gave last Sunday in Fresno:---------------------------------------------------------------------------------------Fr. Geoffrey Farrow 10.05.08* (Respect Life Sunday) As most of you know, I was appointed pastor here at the Newman Center on April 15th of this year. When I arrived, I set out to address a series of various projects to repair our facilities. To date, most of these deferred maintenance items have been addressed. In the middle of dealing with contractors, the parish finance committee, the building department of the diocese, neighbors, etc., I received a FAX from the bishop's office on the 30th of June. It was the bishop's pastoral letter for the month of July. This single FAX threw my whole summer, and in fact, my whole life into a turmoil. Recently, I was speaking with some of our parishioners who advocate for the ordination of women. In the course of our conversation, a question arose which has haunted me: "At what point do you cease to be an agent for healing and growth and become an accomplice of injustice?" By asking all of the pastors of the Diocese of Fresno to promote Catholics to vote "Yes" on Proposition 8, the bishop has placed me in a moral predicament. In his "Pastoral," the bishop states: "Marriage is much more than simply two persons loving each other. Marriage is naturally, socially, and biologically, directed to bringing forth life." Actually, there are TWO ends to marriage: 1) Unitive and 2) Procreative. The unitive end of marriage is simply a union of love and life. The Procreative end is, of course, to create new life. It is important to understand that the unitive end of marriage is sufficient for a valid marriage. The Church sanctions, and considers a sacrament, the marriage of elderly heterosexual couples who are biologically incapable of reproduction. So, if two people of different genders who are incapable of reproduction can enter into a valid marriage, then why is that two people of the same gender, who are incapable of reproduction, cannot enter into a valid marriage. The objections which are raised at this point are taken from Sacred Scripture. Scripture scholars reveal the problematic nature of attempting to use passages from the Hebrew Scriptures as an argument against same gender relationships. Essentially, these scriptures are addressing the cultic practices in which sex with temple prostitutes was part of an act of worshiping Pagan gods. With regard to the Pauline epistles, John J. McNeill, in his book: "The Church and the Homosexual," makes the following point: "The persons referred to in Romans 1:26 are probably not homosexuals that is, those who are psychologically inclined toward their own sex-since they are portrayed as Œabandoning their natural customs.¹" The Pauline epistles do not explicitly treat the question of homosexual activity between two persons who share a homosexual orientation, and as such cannot be read as explicitly condemning such behavior. Therefore, same gender sex by two individuals with same sex orientation is not "abandoning their natural custom." In 1973, as a result of a greater understanding of human psychology, the American Psychological Association declassified homosexuality as a mental illness. In 1975, the Sacred Congregation for the Doctrine of the Faith (the Church's watchdog for orthodoxy) produced a document entitled: "Declaration on Certain Questions Concerning Sexual Ethics." In this document, they made the most remarkable statement. They stated that there are "homosexuals who are such because of some kind of innate instinct." While these statements are hardly glowing affirmations of gay and lesbian persons, they represent a watershed in human perception and understanding of gay and lesbian people. These new insights have occurred as a result of the birth and development of the science of psychology and understanding of brain development in the 19th and 20th centuries. The California Supreme Court cited and quoted an amicus brief filed by the APA in the Court's opinion issued on May 15, 2008 that struck down California's ban on same sex marriage. Specifically, the court relied on the APA's brief in concluding that the very nature of sexual orientation is related to the gender of partners to whom one is attracted, so that prohibiting same sex marriage discriminates on the basis of sexual orientation, rather than just imposing disparate burdens on gay people. In directing the faithful to vote "Yes" on Proposition 8, the California Bishops are not merely entering the political arena, they are ignoring the advances and insights of neurology, psychology and the very statements made by the Church itself that homosexuality is innate (i.e. orientation). In doing this, they are making a statement which has a direct, and damaging, effect on some of the people who may be sitting in the pews next to you today. The statement made by the bishop reaffirms the feelings of exclusion and alienation that are suffered by individuals and their loved ones who have left the Church over this very issue. Imagine what hearing such damaging words at Mass does to an adolescent who has just discovered that he/she is gay/lesbian? What is the hierarchy saying to him/her? What are they demanding from that individual? What would it have meant to you personally to hear from the pulpit at church that you could never date? Never fall in love, never kiss or hold hands with another person? Never be able to marry? How would you view yourself? How would others hearing those same words be directed to view you? How would you view your life and your future? How would you feel when you saw a car with a "Yes on 8" bumper sticker? When you overheard someone in a public place use the word "faggot?" I remember the first time I heard that word, faggot, I was hanging out with my cousins. They all played on the football team of the Catholic high school in our town. One of them spat out the word in the form of a curse. I was just a kid in the 5th grade, I'd never heard the word before, and so I asked: "What's a faggot?" A faggot is a guy who likes other guys, was the curt reply. Now pause. Think. What would those words mean to someone in junior high school who discovers that he/she is attracted to people of their same gender? The greatest fear that he/she would have is that they would be rejected by the people they love the most-their family. So, their solution is to try to pass as straight, deceive, and in effect-lie. Of course, this leads ultimately to self loathing. It should come as little surprise that gay teenagers have elevated suicide rates. According to the Center for Disease Control's Youth Risk Behavior Survey (1999), 33% of gay youth will attempt suicide. The bishop states: "The Church has spoken out constantly that those with a homosexual orientation must be respected with the dignity of every child of God. Every individual is created in the image and likeness of God and should never be subjected to prejudice or hatred." A pious thought uttered by a cleric, robbed of any substantive meaning, as the executioner begins his work. Only a few select people actually read those documents. What most Catholics hear about being gay or lesbian at their parish church is silence. A numbing silence, which slowly and insidiously tells them, "You don't belong here, this is not for you, and you are not welcome." It is not the crude overt vulgarity of some churches. But rather, it is the coldness of a maitre d' who simply won't seat you, or the club which has put you on a waiting list with no intention of allowing you to join. And simply asks you to wait in polite almost, apologetic tones. In effect, the bishops are asking gay and lesbian people to live their lives alone. Why? Who does this benefit? How exactly is society helped by singling out a minority and excluding them from the union of love and life, which is marriage? How is marriage protected by intimidating gay and lesbian people into loveless and lonely lives? What is accomplished by this? Worse still, is to intimidate a gay or lesbian person into a heterosexual marriage, which is doomed from its inception, and makes two victims instead of one by this hurtful "theology." This "theology," which is parroted by clerics in polished tones from pulpits, produces the very prejudice and hatred in our society which they claim to abhor. When the hierarchy prohibited artificial birth control, most of the faithful in the United States, Canada and Europe scratched their heads in wonderment and proceeded to ignore them. There is an expression in theology: "the voice of the people is the voice of God." If your son or daughter is gay/lesbian let them know that you love them unconditionally. Let them know that you are not ashamed or embarrassed by them. Guide them as you would your other children to finding true and abiding love. Let them know that marriage is a union of love and life and is possible for them too. I do not presume to tell you how to vote but I do ask that you pray to the Creator of us all. Think and consider the effects of your vote on others, especially minorities in our society who are sitting next to you in church, and at work. The act of casting a vote takes you a few minutes but it can cause other human beings untold happiness or sorrow for a lifetime. It can grant them hope and acceptance, or it can cause them to lose civil rights. It can be a rebuff to bigotry and hatred, or it can encourage bigotry and hatred. Personally, I am morally compelled to vote "NO" on Proposition 8. It is my hope that the people of California will join with those others around the world such as Canada, Europe and South Africa who welcome their gay and lesbian family members fully into society by granting them the civil right to marry. I know these words of truth will cost me dearly. But to withhold them, would be far more costly and I would become an accomplice to a moral evil that strips gay and lesbian people not only of their civil rights but of their human dignity as well. Jesus said, "The truth will set you free." He didn't promise that it would be easy or without personal cost to speak that truth.
With all this in mind, I commend to your attention this homily recently given by a Roman Catholic priest in the Diocese of Fresno, an agricultural region in what we call the Central Valley (aka San Joaquin Valley):
ABC Action News Exclusive - Father Geoffrey Farrow of the Saint Paul Newman Center in northeast Fresno shocked parishioners Sunday morning when he came out against Proposition 8, an initiative that would eliminate the right for same sex couples to marry in California.http://abclocal.go.com/kfsn/story?section=news/local&id=6431105 Below is the homily that Geoffrey Farrow gave last Sunday in Fresno:---------------------------------------------------------------------------------------Fr. Geoffrey Farrow 10.05.08* (Respect Life Sunday) As most of you know, I was appointed pastor here at the Newman Center on April 15th of this year. When I arrived, I set out to address a series of various projects to repair our facilities. To date, most of these deferred maintenance items have been addressed. In the middle of dealing with contractors, the parish finance committee, the building department of the diocese, neighbors, etc., I received a FAX from the bishop's office on the 30th of June. It was the bishop's pastoral letter for the month of July. This single FAX threw my whole summer, and in fact, my whole life into a turmoil. Recently, I was speaking with some of our parishioners who advocate for the ordination of women. In the course of our conversation, a question arose which has haunted me: "At what point do you cease to be an agent for healing and growth and become an accomplice of injustice?" By asking all of the pastors of the Diocese of Fresno to promote Catholics to vote "Yes" on Proposition 8, the bishop has placed me in a moral predicament. In his "Pastoral," the bishop states: "Marriage is much more than simply two persons loving each other. Marriage is naturally, socially, and biologically, directed to bringing forth life." Actually, there are TWO ends to marriage: 1) Unitive and 2) Procreative. The unitive end of marriage is simply a union of love and life. The Procreative end is, of course, to create new life. It is important to understand that the unitive end of marriage is sufficient for a valid marriage. The Church sanctions, and considers a sacrament, the marriage of elderly heterosexual couples who are biologically incapable of reproduction. So, if two people of different genders who are incapable of reproduction can enter into a valid marriage, then why is that two people of the same gender, who are incapable of reproduction, cannot enter into a valid marriage. The objections which are raised at this point are taken from Sacred Scripture. Scripture scholars reveal the problematic nature of attempting to use passages from the Hebrew Scriptures as an argument against same gender relationships. Essentially, these scriptures are addressing the cultic practices in which sex with temple prostitutes was part of an act of worshiping Pagan gods. With regard to the Pauline epistles, John J. McNeill, in his book: "The Church and the Homosexual," makes the following point: "The persons referred to in Romans 1:26 are probably not homosexuals that is, those who are psychologically inclined toward their own sex-since they are portrayed as Œabandoning their natural customs.¹" The Pauline epistles do not explicitly treat the question of homosexual activity between two persons who share a homosexual orientation, and as such cannot be read as explicitly condemning such behavior. Therefore, same gender sex by two individuals with same sex orientation is not "abandoning their natural custom." In 1973, as a result of a greater understanding of human psychology, the American Psychological Association declassified homosexuality as a mental illness. In 1975, the Sacred Congregation for the Doctrine of the Faith (the Church's watchdog for orthodoxy) produced a document entitled: "Declaration on Certain Questions Concerning Sexual Ethics." In this document, they made the most remarkable statement. They stated that there are "homosexuals who are such because of some kind of innate instinct." While these statements are hardly glowing affirmations of gay and lesbian persons, they represent a watershed in human perception and understanding of gay and lesbian people. These new insights have occurred as a result of the birth and development of the science of psychology and understanding of brain development in the 19th and 20th centuries. The California Supreme Court cited and quoted an amicus brief filed by the APA in the Court's opinion issued on May 15, 2008 that struck down California's ban on same sex marriage. Specifically, the court relied on the APA's brief in concluding that the very nature of sexual orientation is related to the gender of partners to whom one is attracted, so that prohibiting same sex marriage discriminates on the basis of sexual orientation, rather than just imposing disparate burdens on gay people. In directing the faithful to vote "Yes" on Proposition 8, the California Bishops are not merely entering the political arena, they are ignoring the advances and insights of neurology, psychology and the very statements made by the Church itself that homosexuality is innate (i.e. orientation). In doing this, they are making a statement which has a direct, and damaging, effect on some of the people who may be sitting in the pews next to you today. The statement made by the bishop reaffirms the feelings of exclusion and alienation that are suffered by individuals and their loved ones who have left the Church over this very issue. Imagine what hearing such damaging words at Mass does to an adolescent who has just discovered that he/she is gay/lesbian? What is the hierarchy saying to him/her? What are they demanding from that individual? What would it have meant to you personally to hear from the pulpit at church that you could never date? Never fall in love, never kiss or hold hands with another person? Never be able to marry? How would you view yourself? How would others hearing those same words be directed to view you? How would you view your life and your future? How would you feel when you saw a car with a "Yes on 8" bumper sticker? When you overheard someone in a public place use the word "faggot?" I remember the first time I heard that word, faggot, I was hanging out with my cousins. They all played on the football team of the Catholic high school in our town. One of them spat out the word in the form of a curse. I was just a kid in the 5th grade, I'd never heard the word before, and so I asked: "What's a faggot?" A faggot is a guy who likes other guys, was the curt reply. Now pause. Think. What would those words mean to someone in junior high school who discovers that he/she is attracted to people of their same gender? The greatest fear that he/she would have is that they would be rejected by the people they love the most-their family. So, their solution is to try to pass as straight, deceive, and in effect-lie. Of course, this leads ultimately to self loathing. It should come as little surprise that gay teenagers have elevated suicide rates. According to the Center for Disease Control's Youth Risk Behavior Survey (1999), 33% of gay youth will attempt suicide. The bishop states: "The Church has spoken out constantly that those with a homosexual orientation must be respected with the dignity of every child of God. Every individual is created in the image and likeness of God and should never be subjected to prejudice or hatred." A pious thought uttered by a cleric, robbed of any substantive meaning, as the executioner begins his work. Only a few select people actually read those documents. What most Catholics hear about being gay or lesbian at their parish church is silence. A numbing silence, which slowly and insidiously tells them, "You don't belong here, this is not for you, and you are not welcome." It is not the crude overt vulgarity of some churches. But rather, it is the coldness of a maitre d' who simply won't seat you, or the club which has put you on a waiting list with no intention of allowing you to join. And simply asks you to wait in polite almost, apologetic tones. In effect, the bishops are asking gay and lesbian people to live their lives alone. Why? Who does this benefit? How exactly is society helped by singling out a minority and excluding them from the union of love and life, which is marriage? How is marriage protected by intimidating gay and lesbian people into loveless and lonely lives? What is accomplished by this? Worse still, is to intimidate a gay or lesbian person into a heterosexual marriage, which is doomed from its inception, and makes two victims instead of one by this hurtful "theology." This "theology," which is parroted by clerics in polished tones from pulpits, produces the very prejudice and hatred in our society which they claim to abhor. When the hierarchy prohibited artificial birth control, most of the faithful in the United States, Canada and Europe scratched their heads in wonderment and proceeded to ignore them. There is an expression in theology: "the voice of the people is the voice of God." If your son or daughter is gay/lesbian let them know that you love them unconditionally. Let them know that you are not ashamed or embarrassed by them. Guide them as you would your other children to finding true and abiding love. Let them know that marriage is a union of love and life and is possible for them too. I do not presume to tell you how to vote but I do ask that you pray to the Creator of us all. Think and consider the effects of your vote on others, especially minorities in our society who are sitting next to you in church, and at work. The act of casting a vote takes you a few minutes but it can cause other human beings untold happiness or sorrow for a lifetime. It can grant them hope and acceptance, or it can cause them to lose civil rights. It can be a rebuff to bigotry and hatred, or it can encourage bigotry and hatred. Personally, I am morally compelled to vote "NO" on Proposition 8. It is my hope that the people of California will join with those others around the world such as Canada, Europe and South Africa who welcome their gay and lesbian family members fully into society by granting them the civil right to marry. I know these words of truth will cost me dearly. But to withhold them, would be far more costly and I would become an accomplice to a moral evil that strips gay and lesbian people not only of their civil rights but of their human dignity as well. Jesus said, "The truth will set you free." He didn't promise that it would be easy or without personal cost to speak that truth.
Saturday, September 27, 2008
Merrily We Roll Along
Since getting my California drivers license a week ago I have made 4 solo voyages -- all to my immense satisfaction. Trip #1 was an easy one -- just up the street to a local eatery and then from there through a residential area to a bank ATM. Unfortunately the sun was just setting during this last portion, and given the canopy of trees and lack of street lighting in some places, it was difficult to see. I made it home without incident but I now have a new rule -- no driving after 5 p.m. unless absolutely necessary, and in familiar territory that is well lighted.
Trip #2 was up the street again, this time to El Camino Hospital here in Mt. View where my occupational therapist is. The trip requires going about half a mile up Grant Rd, a busy major thoroughfare with a speed limit of 35-40. My GEM car only goes 25 mph at top speed (and it actually inhibits you from going any faster), so I stay over in the right lane and let people in a hurry pass me by. It may help that I have a yellow sticker on each side of the car that reads, "Patience Please: Disabled Driver"
Trip #3 was up Middlefield Rd into Palo Alto where I have therapy activities 4 days per week. I drove myself to the Betty Wright Swim Center where I exercise every Friday. The staff there was thrilled with my success, as were several swimmers I know. One of them, Molly Hale, actually just re-learned to drive herself. She was in an auto accident years ago, not wearing a seat belt, and suffered a spinal injury that rendered her paraplegic. She has a specially outfitted van with hand controls for gas and brake. She enters the vehicle on a lift that accommodates her wheelchair and then she just wheels right under the steering wheel and takes off (with seat belt). She actually had the same adaptive driving instructor as I did. Unfortunately for me (but not for her), Sam seems to have a better understanding of motor impairment than brain injuries such as mine. During our practice sessions, at a STOP sign by a crosswalk, I several times came to a stop at the line on the other side of the crosswalk. Sam said, "What are you doing? You're blocking the crosswalk - remember to stop behind the first line!" When I thought about this I realized I was counting the lines in the same manner you would if there were two parallel lines on a chalk board and you were counting them. #1 is the one at the top and #2 is the one at the bottom, right? I was stopping my car behind line #1 so I didn't see what Sam's problem was. When I explained this to Anne, she said, "Just think of it as stopping behind the first line you come to - et voila, I haven't made that mistake since.
My all electric GEM car (www.gemcar.com - I have the e2 model) has a spinner knob on the steering wheel so I can steer and make turns using just my right hand, and an adaptive turn signal lever that I operate with my right hand. I also have a panoramic rear view mirror and wide side mirrors on right and left. Because I have residual peripheral blindness on my left side (hemianopsia), some of my friends assumed my biggest challenge when driving would be to see things on that side. Actually it is not. I am used to driving my electric scooter and constantly turning my head to the left to make sure I don't miss anything over there. The biggest challenge, as far as I'm concerned, is simultaneously processing all the data and sensory input coming at me simultaneously: e.g., there's a traffic light up ahead and a car waiting to turn left; there's a car behind me and one behind that; there's a school zone between where I am now and the traffic light - oh, and wait, there's actually a stop sign about a block before I get to the traffic light; there's also a girl riding a bike over on my right and a car coming toward me with only one headlight, etc. But the biggest challenge of all is figuring out which lane I need to be in on a multi lane road in order to proceed where I want to go - straight ahead, left, right etc. On roads I know from traveling them repeatedly, I've actually memorized some of this (to go straight across El Camino on Sylvan Street, stay in the right lane, but the right lane at Moorpark only goes right so be careful!)
Therefore Trip #4 last Thursday was a real test of my skills as I was taking a route to my storage unit in Sunnyvale I hadn't driven yet, even though I've been a passenger headed there any number of times. Without going into undue detail, I found the correct lane to be in every time, kept to the right except when needing to make a left turn, and did not exceed the 30 mph speed limit! I was thrilled.
The part of driving that has returned most naturally is the rate of acceleration, braking distance and use of turn signals -- although, as my instructor Sam pointed out, it seems I had some poor driving habits that have carried over from before the stroke!
The best part of being able to drive again is of course the freedom and independence it gives me. I still use Santa Clara County's Outreach paratransit system for rides further than my 6 mile radius(because of battery discharge) or when I need to get my scooter on board for use at a destination such as Stanford where there would be too much walking involved. But for as helpful as Outreach is, using it requires being ready at least half an hour in advance of their scheduled arrival, which also means they can be half an hour late in coming to pick you up. Now, GEM car wheel firmly in my grasp, with just the right amount of pressure on gas pedal and brake, proper use of turn signals, frequent mirror checks and constant mental chatter - look ahead, do this, get in that lane, slow down, etc., I can come and go when I want. It feels like being 16 all over again.
Trip #2 was up the street again, this time to El Camino Hospital here in Mt. View where my occupational therapist is. The trip requires going about half a mile up Grant Rd, a busy major thoroughfare with a speed limit of 35-40. My GEM car only goes 25 mph at top speed (and it actually inhibits you from going any faster), so I stay over in the right lane and let people in a hurry pass me by. It may help that I have a yellow sticker on each side of the car that reads, "Patience Please: Disabled Driver"
Trip #3 was up Middlefield Rd into Palo Alto where I have therapy activities 4 days per week. I drove myself to the Betty Wright Swim Center where I exercise every Friday. The staff there was thrilled with my success, as were several swimmers I know. One of them, Molly Hale, actually just re-learned to drive herself. She was in an auto accident years ago, not wearing a seat belt, and suffered a spinal injury that rendered her paraplegic. She has a specially outfitted van with hand controls for gas and brake. She enters the vehicle on a lift that accommodates her wheelchair and then she just wheels right under the steering wheel and takes off (with seat belt). She actually had the same adaptive driving instructor as I did. Unfortunately for me (but not for her), Sam seems to have a better understanding of motor impairment than brain injuries such as mine. During our practice sessions, at a STOP sign by a crosswalk, I several times came to a stop at the line on the other side of the crosswalk. Sam said, "What are you doing? You're blocking the crosswalk - remember to stop behind the first line!" When I thought about this I realized I was counting the lines in the same manner you would if there were two parallel lines on a chalk board and you were counting them. #1 is the one at the top and #2 is the one at the bottom, right? I was stopping my car behind line #1 so I didn't see what Sam's problem was. When I explained this to Anne, she said, "Just think of it as stopping behind the first line you come to - et voila, I haven't made that mistake since.
My all electric GEM car (www.gemcar.com - I have the e2 model) has a spinner knob on the steering wheel so I can steer and make turns using just my right hand, and an adaptive turn signal lever that I operate with my right hand. I also have a panoramic rear view mirror and wide side mirrors on right and left. Because I have residual peripheral blindness on my left side (hemianopsia), some of my friends assumed my biggest challenge when driving would be to see things on that side. Actually it is not. I am used to driving my electric scooter and constantly turning my head to the left to make sure I don't miss anything over there. The biggest challenge, as far as I'm concerned, is simultaneously processing all the data and sensory input coming at me simultaneously: e.g., there's a traffic light up ahead and a car waiting to turn left; there's a car behind me and one behind that; there's a school zone between where I am now and the traffic light - oh, and wait, there's actually a stop sign about a block before I get to the traffic light; there's also a girl riding a bike over on my right and a car coming toward me with only one headlight, etc. But the biggest challenge of all is figuring out which lane I need to be in on a multi lane road in order to proceed where I want to go - straight ahead, left, right etc. On roads I know from traveling them repeatedly, I've actually memorized some of this (to go straight across El Camino on Sylvan Street, stay in the right lane, but the right lane at Moorpark only goes right so be careful!)
Therefore Trip #4 last Thursday was a real test of my skills as I was taking a route to my storage unit in Sunnyvale I hadn't driven yet, even though I've been a passenger headed there any number of times. Without going into undue detail, I found the correct lane to be in every time, kept to the right except when needing to make a left turn, and did not exceed the 30 mph speed limit! I was thrilled.
The part of driving that has returned most naturally is the rate of acceleration, braking distance and use of turn signals -- although, as my instructor Sam pointed out, it seems I had some poor driving habits that have carried over from before the stroke!
The best part of being able to drive again is of course the freedom and independence it gives me. I still use Santa Clara County's Outreach paratransit system for rides further than my 6 mile radius(because of battery discharge) or when I need to get my scooter on board for use at a destination such as Stanford where there would be too much walking involved. But for as helpful as Outreach is, using it requires being ready at least half an hour in advance of their scheduled arrival, which also means they can be half an hour late in coming to pick you up. Now, GEM car wheel firmly in my grasp, with just the right amount of pressure on gas pedal and brake, proper use of turn signals, frequent mirror checks and constant mental chatter - look ahead, do this, get in that lane, slow down, etc., I can come and go when I want. It feels like being 16 all over again.
Between Pride and Despair
You may remember the controversy created earlier this summer when a contemporary American politician visited Jerusalem and, in keeping with Jewish tradition, placed his prayer in the Western Wall (aka Wailing Wall or Second Temple Mount). The prayer was written on hotel stationery (Jerusalem's best, the 5 star King David) and was retrieved by, in my opinion, unscrupulous journalists who then publicized it to the world. I defer to the ethicists as to whether my re-printing it here compounds the original sin or simply repeats what others have done, however, in light of this evening's debate between Barack Obama and John McCain, I thought I would sign off in this manner: Lord, protect my family and me. Forgive me my sins, and help me guard against pride and despair. Give me the wisdom to do what is right and just, and make me an instrument of your will.
Thursday, September 18, 2008
My very own blog!
My best friend has been after me to "GET YOUR OWN BLOG!" because he is tired of my trying to critique his. so, Kent (www.progressiverevelationblogspot.com) here you go. now you make the first post!
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